Mr. Jekyll and Mrs. Hyde?

Two puns in that title if you read it right ;)

So a less serious, simple shout out about self expression to those who understand, and those don’t. For several years I’ve done this. Yes the image, that’s me. All started out as a ‘wouldn’t it be cool if’ and is rapidly turning into a OMFG, I had no idea I could feel this good about myself!

Being able to allow the thought of vulnerability and self expression into your life for most guys growing up, is a life sentence of tribal bullying. I know there are good evolutionary reasons for this tribal ganging up just like there were great reasons for people to live in caves... once upon a time. Personally I managed to work my way around the problem by being sensible and generally giving as good as I got. BUT, it didn’t make me feel good and I disliked being that way. I guess each of us can't be uniquely human without being warped in some way? 

You see it’s not just what it looks like. It’s what it feels like, inside. It allows you to shift a gear in your mind. Call it therapy ;)

Guys are being marginalised in the modern world. Not by women. By common sense and marketing - Oh yeah, and by guys and some girls who buy into the past. You see, strength and masculinity are not the same thing. Go work it out for yourself if you don’t understand.

I accept that sometimes if a guy goes girly it can be simply a pendulum like reaction against their alter ego, but not always. Then we’re into the discussion of what ‘trans’ is. Let’s leave that for another day!

There are so many great things about being a girl: “Shopping, getting dolled up, being permitted to be ‘emotional’…” 

This quote inspired this blog post so I can't not post a link to the commercial site it's from. Lots of free advice if you sign up for emails. Personally I’ve never bought anything from there but I appreciate the site:
Feminization Secrets Site

I guess this is a cue also the a somewhat deeper story link I posted last time so I’ll repost it here:
The Guardian on kids and gender

Dusk and Dawn - Removing binary gender

Almost everything in nature we see and experience has varying degrees. There is night and day, but they can’t happen without dusk and dawn. Just so in people, There is male and female. But we ALL have elements in us. The traits of masculinity and femininity are to be found in both. We are all just people. It’s only for reproduction that it really matters.

When does black become white? When does Young become old? When does male become female? These are NOT binaries. These are scales. Nature is nothing without scale or increment. Binaries are reference points only, not descriptions of what you do day to day. Day to day you need to grow! Similarly on gender, I totally respect the alpha male and female scenario. Indeed I love it! If you are a male and live by engine grease, great. If you are female and love make-up and dressmaking - go for it. But that doesn’t mean we all must live it every day.

For more time than I remember I have strived to subdue my more traditionally feminine feelings. I have crushed them. I have psychologically insulted them. I have hated myself. My story isn’t one of a female trapped in a males body. I don’t feel that. I only feel I want to be me. And as I can only assume that I am not unique, that many others may also feel similar?

I reject my programming. And at the minimum, you should question your’s and that of your children. Every time you speak to your child, your friend, your partner and say something like, “women drivers!”, “men can’t multitask” or “it’s a baby girl so let’s get her something pink” you are the program…

By all means get a boy blue or a girl pink, but do it because it’s for that person, not the label. You are creating their destiny.

So please consider allowing a little more rainbow light into the world. There’s more than the heat of the midday sun or the cold dark of night.

Links:

The Guardian on gender programming

BBC on Ladybird books dropping gender titles

Very moving Telegraph article on the same Ladybird story

Mirror article on male model being used for a bra ad

You tube on the same ad

Why?

Okies so I just thought I'd begin a blog and here is the place to start. So I thought I'd ask WHY. Why am I so fem and WHY are you so fem or not? What is the catalyst and what is the motivation? I'd love to hear from other Tgirls out there whatever your level of fem-ness.

I've been dressing since I was 6 or so. Originally I think I was just intrigued but as I got into my teens it felt right. And yes there is a big sexual element naturally. But mostly I just get a huge thrill at living when I can be more girly.

I'm not saying I even want to dress 100% all the time but even just being able to wear tight female jeans instead of baggy, drab guy jeans would be good. Certainly wouldn't wear heels all the time, heaven forbid.

And so I come to another aspect. I so hate being told what to do or wear. Another reason I dress. A lesser one perhaps but it's still there. I'm sure if I was born a girl I'd be a tomboy.

And I think my point is WHY NOT. Why should we not be able to dress and represent ourselves more openly without it seeming so odd to most?

So what do others think?

Experimenting!

Hello everyone,

Okies so page number one! Feeling a lot like Lisa Simpson doing the novel thing, lol. But really this is just to test the formatting etc.

Jodie x